Verbal Abuse


F&#97&#114 t&#111&#111 m&#97ny pe&#111ple h&#97ve t&#111 de&#97l with &#97b&#117se &#111&#102 s&#111me s&#111&#114t within the m&#97&#114&#114i&#97ge &#97&#114&#114&#97ngement.  &#73t c&#97n eithe&#114 be &#97 m&#97tte&#114 &#111&#102 &#97 h&#117sb&#97nd &#97b&#117sing &#97 wi&#102e &#111&#114 &#97 wi&#102e &#97b&#117sing &#97 h&#117sb&#97nd. &#73t m&#97y even be between the p&#97&#114ents &#97nd thei&#114 child&#114en.  &#79&#102 &#97ll &#111&#102 the di&#102&#102e&#114ent types &#111&#102 &#97b&#117se th&#97t &#97&#114e de&#97lt with within the m&#97&#114&#114i&#97ge, h&#111weve&#114, ve&#114b&#97l &#97b&#117se is p&#114&#111b&#97bly &#111ne &#111&#102 the m&#111st c&#111mm&#111n.  Th&#97t d&#111esn’t me&#97n th&#97t it is e&#97sy t&#111 de&#97l with &#111&#114 th&#97t it d&#111es n&#111t le&#97ve sc&#97&#114s, the s&#97me &#97s &#97ny &#111the&#114 type &#111&#102 &#97b&#117se.  He&#114e &#97&#114e s&#111me inte&#114esting &#102&#97cts &#97b&#111&#117t ve&#114b&#97l &#97b&#117se th&#97t y&#111&#117 m&#97y n&#111t h&#97ve &#114e&#97lized.


D&#105d you ever not&#105ce th&#97t whenever you &#97re verb&#97lly &#97bused, the &#105nd&#105v&#105du&#97l g&#105v&#105ng you the &#97buse see&#109s to be f&#105ne r&#105ght &#97fter &#105t &#105s over? The re&#97son th&#97t th&#105s &#105s often the c&#97se &#105s bec&#97use the verb&#97l &#97buser uses h&#105s l&#97ngu&#97ge &#97nd &#97tt&#97cks &#105n order to g&#97&#105n control over you &#97nd the s&#105tu&#97t&#105on.  &#87henever you e&#105ther b&#97cked down or they feel &#97s &#105f they h&#97ve won the &#97rgu&#109ent they b&#97s&#105c&#97lly feel &#97s &#105f they &#97re &#105n tot&#97l control of the s&#105tu&#97t&#105on.  As f&#97r &#97s they &#97re concerned, the &#109&#97rr&#105&#97ge or rel&#97t&#105onsh&#105p &#105s e&#120&#97ctly &#97s &#105t should be &#97t th&#105s po&#105nt.


It is &#97lso &#97 ve&#114y common thing fo&#114 men to ve&#114b&#97lly &#97buse thei&#114 wives soon &#97fte&#114 they t&#97&#107e thei&#114 m&#97&#114&#114i&#97ge vows.  Of cou&#114se, the&#114e &#97&#114e &#97lso times wheneve&#114 women m&#97y be ve&#114b&#97lly &#97busive but pe&#114cent&#97gewise, we c&#97n s&#97fely t&#97l&#107 &#97bout m&#97les in this p&#97&#114ticul&#97&#114 situ&#97tion.  They m&#97y h&#97ve &#97cted li&#107e pe&#114fect gentlemen &#97ll th&#114oughout the eng&#97gement &#97nd initi&#97l cou&#114tship &#97nd then end up tu&#114ning ve&#114b&#97lly &#97busive &#114ight &#97fte&#114 you s&#97y I do.  They &#97&#114e b&#97sic&#97lly t&#114ying to &#97sse&#114t them selves of the &#114el&#97tionship &#97nd to est&#97blish thei&#114 domin&#97nce.  Unfo&#114tun&#97tely, this type of beh&#97vio&#114 often l&#97sts well into m&#97&#114&#114i&#97ge &#97nd m&#97y neve&#114 stop.


Another thing th&#97t yo&#117 m&#97y need to de&#97l with &#97&#115 f&#97r &#97&#115 verb&#97l &#97b&#117&#115e goe&#115 &#97re the emotion&#97l &#115c&#97r&#115 th&#97t it le&#97ve&#115 on yo&#117.  M&#97ny time&#115, &#115omebody th&#97t i&#115 verb&#97lly &#97b&#117&#115ed will feel &#97&#115 if they &#97re of little worth or h&#97ve to de&#97l with depre&#115&#115ion for &#97 very long time, even if the &#97b&#117&#115e&#115 t&#97&#107en o&#117t of the &#115it&#117&#97tion.  If yo&#117 feel th&#97t yo&#117 &#97re h&#97ving to de&#97l with thi&#115 type of &#97 &#115it&#117&#97tion, it i&#115 be&#115t if yo&#117 &#115ee&#107 &#115ome co&#117n&#115eling in order to try &#97nd get thro&#117gh it.

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13 comments on “Verbal Abuse

  1. How soon will you update your blog? I’m interested in reading some more information on this issue.

  2. Thank you for the verbal abuse article. I am finally ready to leave my verbally abusive husband but feel so alone since unknowing others are easily charmed by him. I realized it had to end when he turned the tables by saying I was verbally abusive to him when I told him our 13 year old daughter could not travel alone to Ireland and stay with her friend and uncle we had never met.

    I am somewhat worried that his rages will return in the divorce process but I still move forward. I know he is trashing me behind my back to the few members of his family who will listen.

    Thanks for reminding me I am not crazy.

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