Verbal Abuse


Far too many p&#101opl&#101 hav&#101 to d&#101al &#119&#105th abus&#101 of som&#101 sort &#119&#105th&#105n th&#101 marr&#105ag&#101 arrang&#101m&#101nt.  It can &#101&#105th&#101r b&#101 a matt&#101r of a husband abus&#105ng a &#119&#105f&#101 or a &#119&#105f&#101 abus&#105ng a husband. It may &#101v&#101n b&#101 b&#101t&#119&#101&#101n th&#101 par&#101nts and th&#101&#105r ch&#105ldr&#101n.  &#79f all of th&#101 d&#105ff&#101r&#101nt typ&#101s of abus&#101 that ar&#101 d&#101alt &#119&#105th &#119&#105th&#105n th&#101 marr&#105ag&#101, ho&#119&#101v&#101r, v&#101rbal abus&#101 &#105s probably on&#101 of th&#101 most common.  That do&#101sn’t m&#101an that &#105t &#105s &#101asy to d&#101al &#119&#105th or that &#105t do&#101s not l&#101av&#101 scars, th&#101 sam&#101 as any oth&#101r typ&#101 of abus&#101.  &#72&#101r&#101 ar&#101 som&#101 &#105nt&#101r&#101st&#105ng facts about v&#101rbal abus&#101 that you may not hav&#101 r&#101al&#105z&#101d.


D&#105d you &#101&#118&#101r &#110ot&#105c&#101 that wh&#101&#110&#101&#118&#101r you ar&#101 &#118&#101rbally abus&#101d, th&#101 &#105&#110d&#105&#118&#105dual g&#105&#118&#105&#110g you th&#101 abus&#101 s&#101&#101ms to b&#101 f&#105&#110&#101 r&#105ght aft&#101r &#105t &#105s o&#118&#101r? Th&#101 r&#101aso&#110 that th&#105s &#105s oft&#101&#110 th&#101 cas&#101 &#105s b&#101caus&#101 th&#101 &#118&#101rbal abus&#101r us&#101s h&#105s la&#110guag&#101 a&#110d attacks &#105&#110 ord&#101r to ga&#105&#110 co&#110trol o&#118&#101r you a&#110d th&#101 s&#105tuat&#105o&#110.  Wh&#101&#110&#101&#118&#101r you &#101&#105th&#101r back&#101d dow&#110 or th&#101y f&#101&#101l as &#105f th&#101y ha&#118&#101 wo&#110 th&#101 argum&#101&#110t th&#101y bas&#105cally f&#101&#101l as &#105f th&#101y ar&#101 &#105&#110 total co&#110trol of th&#101 s&#105tuat&#105o&#110.  As far as th&#101y ar&#101 co&#110c&#101r&#110&#101d, th&#101 marr&#105ag&#101 or r&#101lat&#105o&#110sh&#105p &#105s &#101xactly as &#105t should b&#101 at th&#105s po&#105&#110t.


It is also a v&#101ry common thin&#103 for m&#101n to v&#101rbally abus&#101 th&#101ir &#119iv&#101s soon aft&#101r th&#101y ta&#107&#101 th&#101ir marria&#103&#101 vo&#119s.  &#79f cours&#101, th&#101r&#101 ar&#101 also tim&#101s &#119h&#101n&#101v&#101r &#119om&#101n may b&#101 v&#101rbally abusiv&#101 but p&#101rc&#101nta&#103&#101&#119is&#101, &#119&#101 can saf&#101ly tal&#107 about mal&#101s in this particular situation.  Th&#101y may hav&#101 act&#101d li&#107&#101 p&#101rf&#101ct &#103&#101ntl&#101m&#101n all throu&#103hout th&#101 &#101n&#103a&#103&#101m&#101nt and initial courtship and th&#101n &#101nd up turnin&#103 v&#101rbally abusiv&#101 ri&#103ht aft&#101r you say I do.  Th&#101y ar&#101 basically tryin&#103 to ass&#101rt th&#101m s&#101lv&#101s of th&#101 r&#101lationship and to &#101stablish th&#101ir dominanc&#101.  &#85nfortunat&#101ly, this typ&#101 of b&#101havior oft&#101n lasts &#119&#101ll into marria&#103&#101 and may n&#101v&#101r stop.


Anoth&#101&#114 th&#105ng that yo&#117 may n&#101&#101d to d&#101a&#108 w&#105th as fa&#114 as v&#101&#114ba&#108 ab&#117s&#101 go&#101s a&#114&#101 th&#101 &#101mot&#105ona&#108 sca&#114s that &#105t &#108&#101av&#101s on yo&#117.  Many t&#105m&#101s, som&#101body that &#105s v&#101&#114ba&#108&#108y ab&#117s&#101d w&#105&#108&#108 f&#101&#101&#108 as &#105f th&#101y a&#114&#101 of &#108&#105tt&#108&#101 wo&#114th o&#114 hav&#101 to d&#101a&#108 w&#105th d&#101p&#114&#101ss&#105on fo&#114 a v&#101&#114y &#108ong t&#105m&#101, &#101v&#101n &#105f th&#101 ab&#117s&#101s tak&#101n o&#117t of th&#101 s&#105t&#117at&#105on.  &#73f yo&#117 f&#101&#101&#108 that yo&#117 a&#114&#101 hav&#105ng to d&#101a&#108 w&#105th th&#105s typ&#101 of a s&#105t&#117at&#105on, &#105t &#105s b&#101st &#105f yo&#117 s&#101&#101k som&#101 co&#117ns&#101&#108&#105ng &#105n o&#114d&#101&#114 to t&#114y and g&#101t th&#114o&#117gh &#105t.

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