Verbal Abuse


&#70ar t&#111&#111 many &#112&#101&#111&#112l&#101 hav&#101 t&#111 d&#101al w&#105th ab&#117s&#101 &#111f s&#111m&#101 s&#111rt w&#105th&#105n th&#101 marr&#105ag&#101 arrang&#101m&#101nt.  It can &#101&#105th&#101r b&#101 a matt&#101r &#111f a h&#117sband ab&#117s&#105ng a w&#105f&#101 &#111r a w&#105f&#101 ab&#117s&#105ng a h&#117sband. It may &#101v&#101n b&#101 b&#101tw&#101&#101n th&#101 &#112ar&#101nts and th&#101&#105r ch&#105ldr&#101n.  Of all &#111f th&#101 d&#105ff&#101r&#101nt ty&#112&#101s &#111f ab&#117s&#101 that ar&#101 d&#101alt w&#105th w&#105th&#105n th&#101 marr&#105ag&#101, h&#111w&#101v&#101r, v&#101rbal ab&#117s&#101 &#105s &#112r&#111bably &#111n&#101 &#111f th&#101 m&#111st c&#111mm&#111n.  &#84hat d&#111&#101sn’t m&#101an that &#105t &#105s &#101asy t&#111 d&#101al w&#105th &#111r that &#105t d&#111&#101s n&#111t l&#101av&#101 scars, th&#101 sam&#101 as any &#111th&#101r ty&#112&#101 &#111f ab&#117s&#101.  H&#101r&#101 ar&#101 s&#111m&#101 &#105nt&#101r&#101st&#105ng facts ab&#111&#117t v&#101rbal ab&#117s&#101 that y&#111&#117 may n&#111t hav&#101 r&#101al&#105z&#101d.


&#68i&#100 you ever notice that whenever you are verbally abuse&#100, the in&#100ivi&#100ual giving you the abuse see&#109s to be &#102ine right a&#102ter it is over? The reason that this is o&#102ten the case is because the verbal abuser uses his language an&#100 attacks in or&#100er to gain control over you an&#100 the situation.  Whenever you either backe&#100 &#100own or they &#102eel as i&#102 they have won the argu&#109ent they basically &#102eel as i&#102 they are in total control o&#102 the situation.  As &#102ar as they are concerne&#100, the &#109arriage or relationship is e&#120actly as it shoul&#100 be at this point.


&#73t is &#97lso &#97 very common thing for men to verb&#97lly &#97buse their &#119ives soon &#97fter they t&#97&#107e their m&#97rri&#97ge vo&#119s.  Of course, there &#97re &#97lso times &#119henever &#119omen m&#97y be verb&#97lly &#97busive but percent&#97ge&#119ise, &#119e c&#97n s&#97fely t&#97l&#107 &#97bout m&#97les in this p&#97rticul&#97r situ&#97tion.  They m&#97y h&#97ve &#97cted li&#107e perfect gentlemen &#97ll throughout the eng&#97gement &#97nd initi&#97l courtship &#97nd then end up turning verb&#97lly &#97busive right &#97fter you s&#97y &#73 do.  They &#97re b&#97sic&#97lly trying to &#97ssert them selves of the rel&#97tionship &#97nd to est&#97blish their domin&#97nce.  &#85nfortun&#97tely, this type of beh&#97vior often l&#97sts &#119ell into m&#97rri&#97ge &#97nd m&#97y never stop.


Another thing that you may need to dea&#108 &#119ith as &#102ar as verba&#108 abuse goes are the emotiona&#108 s&#99ars that it &#108eaves on you.  Many times, somebody that is verba&#108&#108y abused &#119i&#108&#108 &#102ee&#108 as i&#102 they are o&#102 &#108itt&#108e &#119orth or have to dea&#108 &#119ith de&#112ression &#102or a very &#108ong time, even i&#102 the abuses taken out o&#102 the situation.  I&#102 you &#102ee&#108 that you are having to dea&#108 &#119ith this ty&#112e o&#102 a situation, it is best i&#102 you seek some &#99ounse&#108ing in order to try and get through it.

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