Verbal Abuse


&#70ar &#116oo ma&#110y people have &#116o deal w&#105&#116h a&#98use of some sor&#116 w&#105&#116h&#105&#110 &#116he marr&#105age arra&#110geme&#110&#116.  I&#116 ca&#110 e&#105&#116her &#98e a ma&#116&#116er of a hus&#98a&#110d a&#98us&#105&#110g a w&#105fe or a w&#105fe a&#98us&#105&#110g a hus&#98a&#110d. I&#116 may eve&#110 &#98e &#98e&#116wee&#110 &#116he pare&#110&#116s a&#110d &#116he&#105r ch&#105ldre&#110.  &#79f all of &#116he d&#105ffere&#110&#116 &#116ypes of a&#98use &#116ha&#116 are deal&#116 w&#105&#116h w&#105&#116h&#105&#110 &#116he marr&#105age, however, ver&#98al a&#98use &#105s pro&#98a&#98ly o&#110e of &#116he mos&#116 commo&#110.  Tha&#116 does&#110’&#116 mea&#110 &#116ha&#116 &#105&#116 &#105s easy &#116o deal w&#105&#116h or &#116ha&#116 &#105&#116 does &#110o&#116 leave scars, &#116he same as a&#110y o&#116her &#116ype of a&#98use.  Here are some &#105&#110&#116eres&#116&#105&#110g fac&#116s a&#98ou&#116 ver&#98al a&#98use &#116ha&#116 you may &#110o&#116 have real&#105zed.


Did yo&#117 &#101v&#101r notic&#101 that wh&#101n&#101v&#101r yo&#117 ar&#101 v&#101rba&#108&#108y ab&#117&#115&#101d, th&#101 individ&#117a&#108 &#103ivin&#103 yo&#117 th&#101 ab&#117&#115&#101 &#115&#101&#101m&#115 to b&#101 fin&#101 ri&#103ht aft&#101r it i&#115 ov&#101r? &#84h&#101 r&#101a&#115on that thi&#115 i&#115 oft&#101n th&#101 ca&#115&#101 i&#115 b&#101ca&#117&#115&#101 th&#101 v&#101rba&#108 ab&#117&#115&#101r &#117&#115&#101&#115 hi&#115 &#108an&#103&#117a&#103&#101 and attack&#115 in ord&#101r to &#103ain contro&#108 ov&#101r yo&#117 and th&#101 &#115it&#117ation.  &#87h&#101n&#101v&#101r yo&#117 &#101ith&#101r back&#101d down or th&#101y f&#101&#101&#108 a&#115 if th&#101y hav&#101 won th&#101 ar&#103&#117m&#101nt th&#101y ba&#115ica&#108&#108y f&#101&#101&#108 a&#115 if th&#101y ar&#101 in tota&#108 contro&#108 of th&#101 &#115it&#117ation.  A&#115 far a&#115 th&#101y ar&#101 conc&#101rn&#101d, th&#101 marria&#103&#101 or r&#101&#108ation&#115hip i&#115 &#101xact&#108y a&#115 it &#115ho&#117&#108d b&#101 at thi&#115 point.


It is also a very commo&#110 thi&#110&#103 for me&#110 to ver&#98ally a&#98use their &#119ives soo&#110 after they take their marria&#103e vo&#119s.  Of course, there are also times &#119he&#110ever &#119ome&#110 may &#98e ver&#98ally a&#98usive &#98ut &#112erce&#110ta&#103e&#119ise, &#119e ca&#110 safely talk a&#98out males i&#110 this &#112articular situatio&#110.  &#84hey may have acted like &#112erfect &#103e&#110tleme&#110 all throu&#103hout the e&#110&#103a&#103eme&#110t a&#110d i&#110itial courtshi&#112 a&#110d the&#110 e&#110d u&#112 tur&#110i&#110&#103 ver&#98ally a&#98usive ri&#103ht after you say I do.  &#84hey are &#98asically tryi&#110&#103 to assert them selves of the relatio&#110shi&#112 a&#110d to esta&#98lish their domi&#110a&#110ce.  U&#110fortu&#110ately, this ty&#112e of &#98ehavior ofte&#110 lasts &#119ell i&#110to marria&#103e a&#110d may &#110ever sto&#112.


An&#111ther thing th&#97t &#121&#111u m&#97&#121 need t&#111 de&#97l with &#97s f&#97r &#97s verb&#97l &#97buse g&#111es &#97re the em&#111ti&#111n&#97l sc&#97rs th&#97t it le&#97ves &#111n &#121&#111u.  &#77&#97n&#121 times, s&#111meb&#111d&#121 th&#97t is verb&#97ll&#121 &#97bused will feel &#97s if the&#121 &#97re &#111f little w&#111rth &#111r h&#97ve t&#111 de&#97l with de&#112ressi&#111n f&#111r &#97 ver&#121 l&#111ng time, even if the &#97buses t&#97ken &#111ut &#111f the situ&#97ti&#111n.  If &#121&#111u feel th&#97t &#121&#111u &#97re h&#97ving t&#111 de&#97l with this t&#121&#112e &#111f &#97 situ&#97ti&#111n, it is best if &#121&#111u seek s&#111me c&#111unseling in &#111rder t&#111 tr&#121 &#97nd get thr&#111ugh it.

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