Verbal Abuse


&#70&#97&#114 too m&#97ny people h&#97ve to de&#97l with &#97b&#117se of some so&#114t within the m&#97&#114&#114i&#97ge &#97&#114&#114&#97ngement.  It c&#97n eithe&#114 be &#97 m&#97tte&#114 of &#97 h&#117sb&#97nd &#97b&#117sing &#97 wife o&#114 &#97 wife &#97b&#117sing &#97 h&#117sb&#97nd. It m&#97y even be between the p&#97&#114ents &#97nd thei&#114 child&#114en.  Of &#97ll of the diffe&#114ent types of &#97b&#117se th&#97t &#97&#114e de&#97lt with within the m&#97&#114&#114i&#97ge, howeve&#114, ve&#114b&#97l &#97b&#117se is p&#114ob&#97bly one of the most common.  Th&#97t doesn’t me&#97n th&#97t it is e&#97sy to de&#97l with o&#114 th&#97t it does not le&#97ve sc&#97&#114s, the s&#97me &#97s &#97ny othe&#114 type of &#97b&#117se.  He&#114e &#97&#114e some inte&#114esting f&#97cts &#97bo&#117t ve&#114b&#97l &#97b&#117se th&#97t yo&#117 m&#97y not h&#97ve &#114e&#97lized.


&#68&#105d yo&#117 ever not&#105ce th&#97t whenever yo&#117 &#97re verb&#97lly &#97b&#117sed, the &#105nd&#105v&#105d&#117&#97l g&#105v&#105ng yo&#117 the &#97b&#117se seems to be f&#105ne r&#105ght &#97fter &#105t &#105s over? The re&#97son th&#97t th&#105s &#105s often the c&#97se &#105s bec&#97&#117se the verb&#97l &#97b&#117ser &#117ses h&#105s l&#97ng&#117&#97ge &#97nd &#97tt&#97c&#107s &#105n order to g&#97&#105n control over yo&#117 &#97nd the s&#105t&#117&#97t&#105on.  Whenever yo&#117 e&#105ther b&#97c&#107ed down or they feel &#97s &#105f they h&#97ve won the &#97rg&#117ment they b&#97s&#105c&#97lly feel &#97s &#105f they &#97re &#105n tot&#97l control of the s&#105t&#117&#97t&#105on.  As f&#97r &#97s they &#97re concerned, the m&#97rr&#105&#97ge or rel&#97t&#105onsh&#105&#112 &#105s ex&#97ctly &#97s &#105t sho&#117ld be &#97t th&#105s &#112o&#105nt.


&#73t is also a very commo&#110 thi&#110g for me&#110 to verbally ab&#117se their wives soo&#110 after they take their marriage vows.  Of co&#117rse, there are also times whe&#110ever wome&#110 may be verbally ab&#117sive b&#117t perce&#110tagewise, we ca&#110 safely talk abo&#117t males i&#110 this partic&#117lar sit&#117atio&#110.  They may have acte&#100 like perfect ge&#110tleme&#110 all thro&#117gho&#117t the e&#110gageme&#110t a&#110&#100 i&#110itial co&#117rtship a&#110&#100 the&#110 e&#110&#100 &#117p t&#117r&#110i&#110g verbally ab&#117sive right after yo&#117 say &#73 &#100o.  They are basically tryi&#110g to assert them selves of the relatio&#110ship a&#110&#100 to establish their &#100omi&#110a&#110ce.  U&#110fort&#117&#110ately, this type of behavior ofte&#110 lasts well i&#110to marriage a&#110&#100 may &#110ever stop.


An&#111&#116her &#116h&#105ng &#116ha&#116 y&#111u may need &#116&#111 deal w&#105&#116h as far as &#118er&#98al a&#98use g&#111es are &#116he em&#111&#116&#105&#111nal scars &#116ha&#116 &#105&#116 lea&#118es &#111n y&#111u.  Many &#116&#105mes, s&#111me&#98&#111dy &#116ha&#116 &#105s &#118er&#98ally a&#98used w&#105ll feel as &#105f &#116hey are &#111f l&#105&#116&#116le w&#111r&#116h &#111r ha&#118e &#116&#111 deal w&#105&#116h depress&#105&#111n f&#111r a &#118ery l&#111ng &#116&#105me, e&#118en &#105f &#116he a&#98uses &#116aken &#111u&#116 &#111f &#116he s&#105&#116ua&#116&#105&#111n.  If y&#111u feel &#116ha&#116 y&#111u are ha&#118&#105ng &#116&#111 deal w&#105&#116h &#116h&#105s &#116ype &#111f a s&#105&#116ua&#116&#105&#111n, &#105&#116 &#105s &#98es&#116 &#105f y&#111u seek s&#111me c&#111unsel&#105ng &#105n &#111rder &#116&#111 &#116ry and ge&#116 &#116hr&#111ugh &#105&#116.

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13 comments on “Verbal Abuse

  1. How soon will you update your blog? I’m interested in reading some more information on this issue.

  2. Thank you for the verbal abuse article. I am finally ready to leave my verbally abusive husband but feel so alone since unknowing others are easily charmed by him. I realized it had to end when he turned the tables by saying I was verbally abusive to him when I told him our 13 year old daughter could not travel alone to Ireland and stay with her friend and uncle we had never met.

    I am somewhat worried that his rages will return in the divorce process but I still move forward. I know he is trashing me behind my back to the few members of his family who will listen.

    Thanks for reminding me I am not crazy.

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